Military man gilts ex-girlfriend to marry another after spending her money

 

The lady on the left described as the petitioner is the ex-girlfriend who has been gilted by the military man in the middle described as the accused and the one on the right described as first respondent is the one who got married to the military man.

I just read the story of a military man who just gilted his ex-girlfriend to marry another woman just yesterday. Normally I wouldn't go into these things but it has gained so much popularity on social I cannot but add my voice to it. Spending on someone and marriage, I have being thinking where the equation lies? Parents spend so much on their wards in the end some of them don't take care of their parents. Employers spend so much to train employees, in the end they leave the company to work in another company. Football clubs help train a player, they leave to play for another club. NDC spends so much on Allotey Jacobs and makes him popular but he now speaks against them and for NPP.

God created Satan but he gathered other angels to want to overthrow God in heaven. Jesus took care of Judas but in the end Judas betrayed him. Suley Muntari and Kelvin Prince Boateng sacrificed so much for Blackstars and other players but in the end they were sidelined and no one stood for them (not even their team mates). Asamoah Gyan helped Blackstars to reach lots of qualifications and win matches but just a miss on a penalty shoot out look at what was done to him, later he will even be replaced as Captain by a Junior player on the same team.

Donald Trump fought for America but they voted him out. Kwame Nkrumah led Ghana to independence and brought a lot of developmental projects to Ghana but he was toppled in a Coupe D'etat. Mahama built so many infrastructures and refurbished Kotoka Airport to become the best Airport in West Africa yet he was voted out of power. Nana Akufo-Addo brought free SHS to Ghana but his parliamentarians lost massive seats to NDC and he himself almost lost power. A man built a house, bought cars, opened shops for his wife and took her abroad but she left him for another man. Ogidi Brown makes Fameye popular but he left his record label. Akufo-Addo made Martin Amidu Special Procutor but he resigned calling him names etc.

The said lady who claims she spent about Ghs38,000 on the military man for him to go into the military should know that disappointment is part of life and spending on someone in a relationship doesn't mean the person will marry you. A man marries your attitude not your money. If you spend on a man or woman but he later finds out he or she cannot stay with you and marries another person, what offense has he committed? Did you people sign a written agreement that you are spending such and such an amount on him because he MUST marry you? Please the said lady should revise her notes and stop ranting. That is why I said don't spend on a person with the hope of marriage.

Sex and expenditures must all wait till after marriage. I am not supporting the military officer because he married someone else but he is not obliged in anyway to marry the first lady who spent on him unless there was an express agreement to that effect. If the military man knows he promised the said lady marriage but has now disappointed her then he must also be ready for the future consequences because in this world you don't plant maize and harvest cocoyam. According to the military man the said lady is unemployed and cannot afford to spend such amount on him. He claims he met the lady in October 2020 so how could she spend Ghs38,000 on her. My question is, does it take take 100 years to spend Ghs38,000 on a person. Again the military said the only thing the lady bought for him was a pair of socks and she has never spent that amount of him. The good news is that he has not denied not being in a relationship with the lady.

My judgement is that the military man is lying. He only deceived the lady, used her very well, took her money as expenses for himself and now that things are okay with him he goes to marry another woman she loves. Please women kindly understand that love is not by force, if a man doesn't love you, go to Pluto and come to Jupiter he doesn't love you so stop spending on them thinking he will have mercy on you to marry you. It will never happen. I am sure Ghs38,000 can do alot of the lady's parents or even herself if she had invested in herself. I hope you can appreciate how some women can blindly take certain steps and she will be shouting, he deceived me. Who deceived you? You deceived yourself.

The provocative aspect of this whole wording is the location where it was held. It was held in a church in a location called "Brahabebome" in Obuasi, meaning "Come and beat me". Apparently, the lady had threatened to cause confusion at the wedding to collect her money. Just look at this scenario, two young people joking with life. When your married wife doesn't give birth you begin to blame your family witches but you don't remember that you took someone's money to marry another lady.

Below are some of the wedding photos of the said military man and his new wife held at Obuasi yesterday :

To be on the safer side, wait till you marry a person before you spend so much on him and her. My advice again go to women. Look when entering a relationship don't enter into it as if you are jumping into a pond or a swimming pool. Some enter into relationships with their entire spirit, body, bones and soul. It is not advisable, you will get disappointed in the end. Some women are so desperate to an extent that the moment you say hello to her, she ends up on your bed. What is the meaning of all this? Lady can't you control yourself a bit. Control your heart, your emotions, your money, everything. The right man will come your way if you are busy doing what is right.

I am yet to read somewhere in the Bible where a woman prayed for marriage. I see women pray for children but not marriage. As a woman you are made for a man to desire you so if no man is desiring or proposing to you please check yourself and your attitude. There is no way a woman won't be desired by a man. A man who desires you can go the extra mile to marry you but the thing is when they get close to you they notice something about you they don't like so they retreat. So women please check yourselves and ask yourselves questions and position yourself right, the right suitor will come.

As for those women who go about shouting equal rights and feminism, I even pray to God they don't find husbands. You can't marry as a woman if you are proud and won't humble yourself to a man. No man wants to marry a proud woman so as for that one if you are in that category then your issue is well diagnosed and I think you should understand why you are not married by now. For a man to propose love to you is not an easy thing for some men so for you to reject them is a big cut to their who. That said doesn't mean go round accepting every proposal but be moderate in your standards. Don't set standards for the type of man you want because you will never get him and he will disappoint you. Just be open minded and allow God to choose for you. When the right man comes you will know it.